Soundwaves Perinatal Bereavement Support

Bereavement Support For Parents Grieving the Loss of a Baby During or Just After Pregnancy

Coping With Valentine’s Day February 13, 2009

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching. Although it is a day that typically celebrates love, for many of us it is just a reminder of our broken hearts. Be good to yourself today. Here are some things you can do to ease the added stress of the holiday (some of these suggestions came from Compassionate Friends):

  • Plan some time to relax. Do something for yourself that you enjoy- even if it is for a short time. Watch a good movie, read a good book, take a warm bath, take a walk, get plenty of rest, eat a special meal.
  • Honor your baby today by making a special memento (write a poem or note to your baby, make a special Valentine’s Day card for him or her, light a candle or plant a flower in their memory, share your mementos or memory box with family or special friend).
  • Decorate the gravesite or memorial site with hearts, a special stuffed animal or flowers for the holiday. If your baby has siblings, let them help.
  • Give a holiday donation to a charitable organization in memory of your baby.

And I know I’ve said this before, but please remember that you are not alone. Take one day at a time, and don’t push yourself too hard. Be kind to yourself today. You so deserve it.